5 Things I Love Being a Housewife

5 Things I Love Being a Housewife

There’s no shame being a homemaker. In fact, it’s a noble non-paying career. You get a lifetime contract and I like to think that having a peaceful home is my remuneration. I enjoy every second of it and today, I’d like to share the things that make me delighted about my decision of becoming a housewife.

  1. I work at my own pace. As long as our meals are ready, I do the rest of the household chores anytime I want. There are plenty of things to do but there are no deadlines. I’m not worried about starting late or finishing early. And I take breaks whenever I want to.
  2. I am in no competition. I don’t have to constantly work hard to be awarded as the employee of the month or the most popular English teacher of the month and be given incentives for it. If anything, I am my own competition. I try to grow as a person without facing pressure. I don’t need to prove my worth to anyone.
  3. My husband doesn’t need to think about other things and is able to focus on his work. He can eat and rest well. I help him develop good eating habits and encourage him to be physically active as he’s always in his seat while working. It melts my heart every time he appreciates me for doing those little things.
  4. I answer to no one. I don’t have a boss to tell me what to do and what not to do. It doesn’t mean I don’t like being told, it’s just the reality of not working for anybody. When I was still working, I didn’t mind being lectured by my superiors. As a matter of fact, it was an honor but the pressure would stress me out. You know the feeling of having to comply or keep a good track of your performance to impress your boss or clients. I’m glad I’m free from that chain now.
  5. I’ve learned to cook and bake which is a big deal for me because we both have a soft spot for tasty foods. I thought I couldn’t be trusted in the kitchen. It’s so rewarding to see my husband enjoying the food I make. A different kind of feeling I get compared to the times I was still doing my thing in the corporate world. I’m learning new things day by day and it excites me to know that I’m capable of doing many things. Not just teaching.

I don’t know how long this will last, but I will always be grateful for leading an almost stress-free life. Now, I would love to hear your story. Tell me about the things you love being the lady of the house.

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I Chose to be a Housewife and I’m Proud of it

I Chose to be a Housewife and I’m Proud of it

Back home, I was enjoying my job as an ESL teacher for almost 5 years. Good 5 years indeed! As I was preparing myself to leave everything behind me, I admit I was concerned about my future career in a whole new place. Building a career in an unfamiliar place like Japan is undeniably daunting. But I told myself to expect nothing and be happy because I’d finally be in my husband’s arms which was the main reason why I had to pack up and leave.

About a year after arriving here, I started teaching English at an IT company for probably over a year. It was a part-time job but it felt like home and I was so glad to be given the opportunity to do what I enjoy doing, that’s teaching. Despite feeling purposeful because I was making my own money, something just didn’t feel right deep inside. There was heaviness. The nature of my job kept me from taking care of my husband the way I envisioned myself doing. His job is quite demanding so he usually comes home late. But according to him, he has changed his working habits since I came here. He used to stay at work longer than now. Still, he comes home mentally drained and surely needs some attention and care. 

I wanted to give him my full attention. So when he told me that he needed a wife, not a money maker as a joke, I took it seriously. At first, I thought my presence was enough for him. But having a spouse that fully pays attention to you is totally different. He said that he would be happier if I could fulfill my duties as his wife without feeling guilty of not being able to financially contribute because that would be his responsibility. He owned that responsibility and I couldn’t be prouder of him. He married me to be his partner in all aspects of life except for financial matters. This is something I am beyond grateful for. We aren’t rich. We have enough. We could have more if both of us would work our asses out but we just don’t want more. It’s safe to say that we have all we need now.

What will you do with your wealth if your relationship is falling apart? What’s the use of having all the things you want but losing the only thing you need? I’ve asked myself these questions and one day I woke up deciding to be a full time housewife. I told the company that I needed a break and everyone was so understanding that they didn’t ask me deeply about it and just told me that their door will always be open for me. It’s been about 2 years since the day I traded in my teaching career for times spent cooking in the kitchen for my hungry husband, waiting for him to come home, putting his things in place, keeping our house tidy especially with a dog and a bunch of other stuff I never thought I could do or would do. Being a lazy person, if you know me, I’m truly proud of what I’ve become now. I know things may change but right now I’m embracing the life I never imagined.

I’m happy I made this decision not just for him but for myself as well. That heavy feeling has been lifted off my chest. I tried searching it deep inside but all I could find was something bright. I’ve never felt this lighter before. I feel like I’m walking on the right path now and I’m willing to keep walking until I reach my final destination. 

If you’ve decided to give up your dream job or hard-earned position for the one thing that makes you truly alive, be proud for being brave enough to forget about your title and be very grateful because not everyone is given a choice.

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Choose A Man Who Values You More Than Sex

Choose A Man Who Values You More Than Sex

I’ve been married for almost 5 years now and I’ve never been sexually violated. Needless to say, my husband isn’t a saint but he has never forced me to have sex with him. He never treats me like an object. Even if I walk around the house in my birthday suit, he doesn’t assume that I want him to do it with me. He can tell when I want it by dropping him hints. Even if he wants to do it but I am not in my best condition, he doesn’t sulk. For that, I try to satisfy him on my own accord. He does the same thing for me. And when we do make love, he doesn’t force me to do things just to please him. We do it like a song that follows a rhythm. Making love with him has never made me feel less about myself.

I guess I’m just so lucky to find someone who values his woman more than his ego. A man who doesn’t think he is above me. A man that doesn’t allow his sexual urges to get the better of him. He is mature enough to understand that just because I am his wife doesn’t mean he can do whatever he wants to my body. Or maybe I love myself enough that I chose him. Marrying him is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made for myself. I wonder what he was thinking about me when we were still dating.

I love being married to him. It’s not hard for him to forgive me whenever I snap at him. I’m an emotional person and he’s quite the opposite. But he tries his best to be lenient with me. He doesn’t act arrogant and ask me to do something sensual in return for all the good things he’s done to me and my family. He doesn’t care if I don’t wear any makeup. In fact, it’s what he prefers. He’s learning to pick out the reasons for my mood swing that I go through every now and then. We once had a big fight that I was unexpectedly grateful for because that was the day that I realized how truly blessed I am to have a husband like him. He had every reason to hurt me, swear at me, or even raise his voice at me but he chose to keep his cool and let a day go by for us to reflect. I’ve learned to be more understanding of him. Not everything should go my way or even his. Marriage doesn’t work like that.

Sometimes, I ask myself if he’ll stay this way until the end. That’s something I always pray for. I pray that he won’t get tired of being nice to me. Because I know in my heart that I would still choose him even in another life. 

This is something personal but I’m sharing this to let you know that in this modern era when people turn to online platforms to search for love and end up being hurt, good men still exist. You just have to be really careful. If you’re still searching for a man who will never make you feel small, just be patient. He will come. Just don’t stop believing. You can keep waiting. Or don’t. The choice is yours to make. Just remember, never settle with someone you aren’t sure about. Never settle with him only to escape loneliness. Being alone is better than being with someone who only thinks of you as an object of sexual desire. Men like that will never change. You don’t have the power to change them but you have the power to choose to spend the rest of your life with a man who sees your worth.

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