I’m not very big on celebrating my birthday anymore. I guess it’s part of growing up. Like it or not, some parts of you change as time passes. I hit 30 last Monday. A year older and perhaps wiser as everybody says. Despite the fact that I chose not to blow the candles on my day, I couldn’t be more grateful to have reached this age. My 20s was one hell of a ride! To bid adieu to my 20s, I’ve come up with a list of lessons I learned as I went through the last chapters of my life as a 20-something girl. I don’t know who needs to hear them but I’ll just leave them here.
- You’re wrong to think that you can’t learn to do something new as it may be too late. If you’d just put your mind to it, you surely could do it.
I never thought I could learn to bake but I took the time to learn the basics and didn’t take long for me to make something totally edible and actually palatable. If you’re contemplating doing something new, just do it!
- You can’t make your dreams come true if you don’t do something about it.
I remember my first dream was to fly. When I got my first job at the age of 19 or 20, I started saving without expecting much. Long story short, I realized that dream 3 years later. From there, my old dreams kept coming true one after another.
- Dream small so you won’t fall so hard.
- Failures are blessings. They help you open up your mind and learn so much about yourself like the things that you have to work on in order to do better next time.
- You can be loyal to your old friends but you shouldn’t close your heart to new ones.
- No matter how loyal you are to your friends, if you don’t define loyalty in the same way, you’ll eventually grow apart.
- Don’t expect people to treat you the way you want to be treated all the time.
- Some people have a lot of things going on in their mind, so don’t expect them to be always attentive to you.
- Just because you are honest doesn’t mean people will also be honest to you.
- Time can’t heal all wounds. Some wounds will remain fresh no matter what you do. You just learn to live with them.
- People or things can’t make you HAPPY. They can only make you HAPPIER.
If you can’t find happiness on your own, don’t try looking for it in other people or things or else you’ll end up feeling empty.
- Happiness doesn’t mean you have it all figured out. It’s choosing to think positive even when the things around you are falling apart.
- People will frustrate you, hurt you, and break you but that shouldn’t stop you from being the good version of yourself.
- When you allow someone to disrespect you once, they’ll keep disrespecting you. Once is enough. Stay away from them. You matter.
- Some people will never be happy for you. Don’t feel bad. Don’t blame yourself. You’re not the problem.
- It’s okay to ask for help. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. You’re just being human.
- It’s okay to say no. Not everyone is your responsibility.
- Take care of yourself first so you are able to take care of others.
- It always feels good to be happy for others.
- Surround yourself with people who would like to see you grow.
- You don’t have to explain your choices to other people. It’s like talking to a wall. They will never understand you unless they want to.
- True friends will stay no matter where you go and whoever you’re with.
- Don’t forget how blessed you are in times of trouble.
- Count your blessings quietly. No one has to know.
- It’s okay to share your milestones with others. It’s not bragging.
It’s finding and spreading joy in a world full of chaos. Some people would like to hear some good stuff.
- Stay true to yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not for the sake of others.
- If you don’t fit in, it’s okay. Being different is okay. You just have to accept yourself first and everything follows.
- Breakups are blessings. Your past relationships will shape you and help you realize what you desire in life.
- Worrying too much about the future won’t do you any good. Be in the present. Enjoy every moment you have now because tomorrow might never come.
- You’re still growing so don’t act like you know everything.
Can you relate to any of these? Let me know in the comments.
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